Is your friend your sex buddy?
He loves me, he loves me not. She'll call back, she won't." Well, not all tales that begin with plucking petals or waiting for a call, end up in bed.
For the girl or guy you save the last dance for, need not be the one you spend your life with. But, that's ok. Isn't it? For, till you find your ideal partner, you can have fun with a buddy. All you have to do is just give a call or drop a message and he or she will be there at your doorstep. Yes, having a f**k or a sex buddy is cool, comfy and fun, feel the youth. We talk to them on what they call a "win-win situation."
A friend in need, is a friend indeed!
Who else, but your buddy to best understand your needs. "A bed buddy keeps one happy, 'coz there are no strings attached. And it's not a new trend, just that now it's a fad, just like having a boyfriend or a girlfriend," says Prateek, a manager with a city eatery.
"It's hassle-free and convenient," feels Neha, a bank employee. She adds, "It surely is more than a one-night stand. It lasts much longer, after all, friendships last." But, how does it all begin? "In my case, it was not like a thought out decision. I was lonely and looked for comfort in a friend and it worked. Today, we know we are there for each other, whenever and wherever," lets in Amit, a bank employee. "It's all about fulfiling an instinct and since social norms don't permit it otherwise, one goes to a friend," reasons Prateek. Dhruv, a student of computer applications says, "It's about helping a friend enjoy the pure pleasure of sex. It might feel wrong the first time, but then, with friends there are no hang-ups."
Cool 'n' clear
"It is a zero complication situation, as both the friends are clear on what they want," says Dhruv. Both the buddies have to be clear about the terms of the relationship or else emotional problems follow, says Megha, a budding architect. "Sex buddies come in handy, for they're just a call away," feels Preeti, who is doing her MBA. "It's pure sex. One is not even required to engage in any post-sex sweet talk," she adds. Agrees Vikas, a scribe, "That's quite a relief, as one is not made to feel guilty if one forgets to send flowers the next morning. The passion never dies, for you know why you are into it." Adds Prateek, "Cheater and a f**k buddy are two different terms."
In the fast lane
"Today's pace of life doesn't allow one to devote hours to nurturing a relationship," feels Gaurav, an executive working in a call centre. "Gone are the days when one had to wait for marriage to have sex. It's also not about being a girl or a guy," says Megha. "It's thrilling to meet one's needs with a friend, rather than wait for a girl to shed her hang-ups," chips in Amit.
Fun bhi, safety bhi?
"I have been staying alone in the city for five years and have had a couple of regular sex buddies all these years," says Vikas, adding, "At times, it was to avoid loneliness, and many a times for fun." Admits Gaurav, "I have never felt ashamed while experimenting when with a friend. You can let your fantasies loose." Some feel such a relationship ensures safe sex. "A friend would never leave you infected with a virus," feels Prerna.
No right or wrong
"I would never consider having a serious relationship with a man who I know has had a sex buddy," says Kanika, who is studying commerce. But then, there are no rights and wrongs feel those who have such buddies, and they reiterate that it's about personal choice.
(Names have been changed to protect identities)
For the girl or guy you save the last dance for, need not be the one you spend your life with. But, that's ok. Isn't it? For, till you find your ideal partner, you can have fun with a buddy. All you have to do is just give a call or drop a message and he or she will be there at your doorstep. Yes, having a f**k or a sex buddy is cool, comfy and fun, feel the youth. We talk to them on what they call a "win-win situation."
A friend in need, is a friend indeed!
Who else, but your buddy to best understand your needs. "A bed buddy keeps one happy, 'coz there are no strings attached. And it's not a new trend, just that now it's a fad, just like having a boyfriend or a girlfriend," says Prateek, a manager with a city eatery.
"It's hassle-free and convenient," feels Neha, a bank employee. She adds, "It surely is more than a one-night stand. It lasts much longer, after all, friendships last." But, how does it all begin? "In my case, it was not like a thought out decision. I was lonely and looked for comfort in a friend and it worked. Today, we know we are there for each other, whenever and wherever," lets in Amit, a bank employee. "It's all about fulfiling an instinct and since social norms don't permit it otherwise, one goes to a friend," reasons Prateek. Dhruv, a student of computer applications says, "It's about helping a friend enjoy the pure pleasure of sex. It might feel wrong the first time, but then, with friends there are no hang-ups."
Cool 'n' clear
"It is a zero complication situation, as both the friends are clear on what they want," says Dhruv. Both the buddies have to be clear about the terms of the relationship or else emotional problems follow, says Megha, a budding architect. "Sex buddies come in handy, for they're just a call away," feels Preeti, who is doing her MBA. "It's pure sex. One is not even required to engage in any post-sex sweet talk," she adds. Agrees Vikas, a scribe, "That's quite a relief, as one is not made to feel guilty if one forgets to send flowers the next morning. The passion never dies, for you know why you are into it." Adds Prateek, "Cheater and a f**k buddy are two different terms."
In the fast lane
"Today's pace of life doesn't allow one to devote hours to nurturing a relationship," feels Gaurav, an executive working in a call centre. "Gone are the days when one had to wait for marriage to have sex. It's also not about being a girl or a guy," says Megha. "It's thrilling to meet one's needs with a friend, rather than wait for a girl to shed her hang-ups," chips in Amit.
Fun bhi, safety bhi?
"I have been staying alone in the city for five years and have had a couple of regular sex buddies all these years," says Vikas, adding, "At times, it was to avoid loneliness, and many a times for fun." Admits Gaurav, "I have never felt ashamed while experimenting when with a friend. You can let your fantasies loose." Some feel such a relationship ensures safe sex. "A friend would never leave you infected with a virus," feels Prerna.
No right or wrong
"I would never consider having a serious relationship with a man who I know has had a sex buddy," says Kanika, who is studying commerce. But then, there are no rights and wrongs feel those who have such buddies, and they reiterate that it's about personal choice.
(Names have been changed to protect identities)
